As China’s population ages and birth rates decline, the country is implementing a gradual delayed retirement policy to address rising pension costs. Middle-aged and older women often take on dual responsibilities of supporting adult children and caring for grandchildren. A study involving in-depth interviews and observations of 11 women in Nanjing examines the conflicts these women face due to the pressures of work and family. Findings indicate that while delayed retirement may enhance family income and social connections, these women encounter significant challenges. They deal with dual labor demands, a lack of time, exclusion from modern parenting discussions, and physical and mental fatigue stemming from their maternal roles. These difficulties arise from entrenched gender norms, insufficient social policies, and inadequate support systems. The study calls for improved social policies, the promotion of harmonious family values, community-based childcare initiatives, and adjustments in family roles to help these women redefine their roles within societal structures and enhance their maternal experiences.